Emotional Intelligence… What is it? I am sure many of you may have come across the term Emotional Intelligence or EQ (Emotional Quotient). However, what does it actually mean?
If I was to ask you what IQ (Intelligence Quotient) was you’d probably tell me it is is a total score derived from several tests designed to assess human intelligence and you’d be spot on!
The term Emotional Intelligence was first coined in 1990 by two gentleman, Peter Salovey and John Mayer. They said it was a form of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and action.
In the early 1990s, a Harvard writer by the name of Daniel Goleman became aware of the work done by Salovey & Mayer and published a book called Emotional Intelligence.
IQ Vs. EQ
Much research has gone into the world of Emotional Intelligence ever since but work stretches back to an Israeli psychologist called Reuven Bar-On. He didn’t label it emotional intelligence but used the term emotional and social competence.
Much of the research has been based on what were successful people doing that others were not. Many people who were not successful but they would have high IQ scorings whereas some of the really successful may not have had a high IQ score.
Daniel Goleman cited the Harvard Business School research that determined that EQ counts for twice as much as IQ and technical skills combined in determining who will be successful.
Emotional Intelligence isn’t just about your relationship with others. It is understanding yourself and having a great relationship with you and being self-aware.
Your IQ tails off when you reach your late teens however your EQ is only just getting started. Your EQ continues to increase until your 50’s where it dips slightly. You can increase your Emotional Intelligence if you decide to put the effort in.
Depending on the model of Emotional Intelligence you use, the model varies slightly. Ultimately, the principles remain the same. The competencies I use are derived from Martyn Newman & Judy Purse who run RocheMartin. RocheMartin launched the ECR (Emotional Captial Report) which enables individuals to be able to run through an assessment which provides them with scores against each competency. It provides information on each and strategies to improve.
The competencies I work with are; Self-Confidence, Self-Knowing, Optimism, Adaptability, Relationship Skills, Empathy, Self-Reliance, Self-Actualization, Straightforwardness & Self-Control.
There is so much to each of the above-mentioned competencies.
Each providing you with another leg to your stool of life.
If you are serious about your development and making progress in your career you can do a lot worse than working on your EQ.
Want to work on it together? Reach out today and add another piece to your toolkit and understand how it links to your overall wellbeing